The emotional side of personal healing is one near and dear to my heart.Growing up sensitive and expressing my sensitivity in a self destructive way as a teenager (anorexia) was not the optimal way for me to cope with my emotional side. I have come a long ways since then but I still am extremely sensitive so therefore need tools to help me navigate the challenging spaces of my own personal reality. One of my light bulb moments was when I read about the need to be emotionally independent. Looking back on my life path, I realized that much of my challenges that arose were largely self inflicted because I was emotionally dependent. I was emotionally dependent on other people to make me feel like I was okay. I made them (being the outside world) responsible for my well being. If they treated me well, I would be happy and in harmony. If they treated me less than well, I would immediately blame myself and wonder what I had done to affect their emotional state. As long as my external environment was harmonious I was fine. How realistic is it for your external environment to always be harmonious? Not very! I needed to make my internal environment harmonious to me and stop needing my external environment to make things okay inside myself. This is emotional independence. This is knowing that you alone are responsible for your own well being. No one else can give this to you. This allows you the freedom to let go of needing to make everybody else around you happy; because guess what, you can’t do that! You are not responsible for their well being. They are responsible for that. When I learned this, my whole spirit became lighter. I didn’t have to carry the burdens of everyone else who was less than happy and make me responsible for their well being. This is liberation! So when you are feeling emotionally troubled about something in your life, ask yourself if your emotional state is arising because of something that someone did in your external world. Are they making you unhappy? Did a light bulb go on? When people challenge you, emotionally speaking, it is your perfect opportunity to claim emotional independence; make yourself responsible for how good you feel in each moment. Learning how to be emotionally independent would have saved me years of psychotherapy when I was younger! So, claim your own emotional independence from now on. I challenge you to do this in your own life! You will become a much happier individual moving forward. More on emotional healing next time…
The Journey of Personal Healing
If there is one thing that I am really familiar with, it’s the journey of personal healing. Dealing with anorexia nervosa as a teenager and later on being diagnosed with multiple sclerosis, I have definitely been on a journey of personal healing in my life. Despite my challenges along the way, I am grateful for the journey. And I have to say I have never felt better physically in my life than now. With each little step of self discovery which comes when you agree to really explore your own personal landscape, shedding light on all the dark corners of your existence brings you to a more profound level of joy, self love and self acceptance than you might have thought was possible. The journey of personal healing requires looking at your life with almost a microscopic lens; your behavior, your faults, your habits, your attitudes, your challenges through the light of self understanding. In this way, you hold yourself accountable and end up as a side benefit living your life in a more conscious way. You are then helping in a small way to heal the world. You are but a link in the chain. By agreeing to take the journey of personal healing you can then help others along the way. What you say to others around you can influence their life in a positive way. Share your stories of personal inspiration with others. This uplifts them and they can then pass this story on to the next person that they encounter if they are so moved. The world needs inspiration right now and stories of positivity.
The journey of personal healing requires attention to the mental, emotional, physical and spiritual sides of illness. If you don’t work on all of these areas, then you don’t experience the maximum rate of healing that you could. There is so much power within yourself to heal from illness. I have experienced this in my own life and therefore feel well equipped to help you in this manner. The power is within you and all you need to do is tap into this power. Does healing mean curing? Not always but healing always brings you to greater degree of happiness, more love both for yourself and others around you and a more divine expression of your personal beauty in the world. We are all wanting to express our personal beauty in the world. This is expressing the God within. As a result of taking this journey, your health inevidibly improves. Then you leave the rest up to the divine. This is trusting the journey of personal healing. You trust inside yourself that you are on the right path. It feels right to you. You can trust in that feeling. I will explore the four corners of healing in my next blog. The mental side of healing will be explored to start.