Be aware of the story line you are running. We tell ourselves stories about the way things are in our life. We tell ourselves stories about the childhood we experienced (‘this is the way it was’), the lives we have created (‘this has been my path up until now’)and why things are the way they are (‘this is happening because of that’). We have literally created all these stories because of our previous perceptions, our conditioning, our experiences, our attachments and often in the end to make our stories ‘right’. We have so much invested in the stories of our lives. These stories define our lives, give them shape and definition, give us an identity. But do these stories make us feel good? Do these stories leave us with a warm, fuzzy feeling inside? Probably not. We wear these stories like battle scars. You might think but the wounds run deep… I am here to say that you want to tell yourself a story that feels good to you. It is time to lift the veil off your particular storyline that has defined you for such a long time and see things from a different perspective…only if you are ready to do so. What if the story line you have been running could be changed? The old story likely makes you feel like a victim of your circumstance whereas a new story would allow you to feel empowered and in charge of your life. Letting go of the old story is challenging because in the old story, you were a victim. Other people did things to you that were not okay. To let go of your story nessitates forgiveness (for others and for yourself), compassion and tolerance; in involves opening your heart to the people around you and offering them unconditional love which can be tough when you may have felt hurt by them in your past. But you are only hurting yourself by holding on to old wounds, past regrets, previous greivances…
I challenge you to create a new story that allows you to view your previous story almost from a distance, a detached eye. It is all perspective; if you create a new story about the reason that things happened to you in your past or in your present and it leaves you feeling good then keep the story but if the story line you are running makes you feel angry, victimized, sad, or otherwise not good, then let go of your story. You might have to journal about the story you have written or speak to someone that you trust about the nature of your story to be able to let it go. You might have to get therapy, go for emotional freedom technique sessions, see a psychologist, a psychiatrist, or whatever works for you to make you feel that it is resolved. But if you have the courage to let go of your story (and it takes a lot of courage to face yourself and your story), a new story can be birthed. This new story is the one in which you feel empowered, light, compassionate, loving and grateful for your previous experiences and grateful for the chance to write a new story. This new story is the real you, the authentic you that is more in touch with who you are. This new story involves you in all your radiant glory shining your light as bright as it can be. This new story is the one in which you truly love and accept yourself. This is progress!
Hugh Culver says
I think we need to also pay attention to even the slightest confirmation that our new story is ‘working’. Like if I adopt the story that I am feeling full of energy and light of worries. Then I need to spot the little bits of evidence that support the story – a smile I get in return from someone I meet, or a successful phone call with a client.
I like the think of the brain is like a 2 year old baby, or a puppy dog. It is constantly taking in feedback and then making decisions (it just doesn’t drool!).
Good point Hugh! That positive feedback is very important…