When life gets challenging, I sometimes default to a fearful stance versus a trusting stance. I always have to remind myself that I don’t have to be in control all the time – control is an illusion anyways…Whenever you come from a place of ego, you are automatically susceptible to feeling fear and distrust. These are two things that the ego thrives on. When you find yourself coming from a fearful stance, look behind that. Why are you not trusting that you held by a higher power? Why do you feel that you have to run the show and if you don’t that things will fall apart. Feel the freedom of viewing things from a different perspective – one that feels more relaxed and easy versus pressure filled and intense. Take a moment to connect in with yourself; from that place of connection you can sense deep inside of yourself that everything will be okay. You have to live your life from a place of trust versus a place of fear. If you are unsure of what direction to take regarding a decision you need to make, take the time to get quiet and don’t rush a decision until you feel that centred place inside of yourself. From that centred place, you can make a decision, trusting that you are held by a higher power…and that takes the pressure off your egoic self that you have to be in control all the time…
Not on my time, rather divine time
Control is such a charged subject for me. From a young age, I convinced myself that I had control over what things happened to me. Being a nervous flyer, I used to obsessively pray on airplanes believing I was the one that would keep the plane in the air. I was wrong. Control is only an illusion. That illusion often makes people feel safer, more in ‘control’ of their lives. What can be useful to do is reframe the events of your life. Even little annoyances that may crop up in your day to day activities can be looked at from a different perspective. For instance, I had some business cards made last Friday – ‘business cards in minutes’…I was rushing to get the cards done and ended up making an error on the cards even though I did proof-read them at the time. I noticed the error last night and I needed new cards in 24 hours. I had to redo them and when I went to the copy store this am, the machine was broken to cut the cards. I could have ranted and raved about my misfortune but I did not. I spent 90 minutes at the shop while the kind employee cut my business cards manually. I was instead grateful that she took the time to help me. Here is an opportunity to reframe the situation. I thought this is not on my time, it is on divine time. I have a specific goal in mind and I take action when and where required but ultimately I don’t have control over the time line; my path will unfold in the right way at the right time. Remember, control is just an illusion. I need to let go of controlling all the little things I do in my life. I do not have to make things happen. I am human and I make mistakes from time to time. When I let go of control and trust in the bigger picture, then I am more in alignment to my goal…and then I am amused and grateful for the little things that pop up to slow me down…I remind myself it is not on my time, rather divine time…